Pregnancy: Update at 14 Weeks

This past week has probably been the most stressful week so far during our pregnancy. I have had to take Donna to the Emergency Room two nights in a row because she couldn’t urinate. This has been the weirdest thing in that she has no problems at all going during the day but in the middle of the night she has had trouble going. Both times at the ER they were able to put a catheter in and have been able to drain her bladder and get some relief. The second visit they left the catheter in overnight but the next morning we removed it after speaking with our OBGYN. The risk for infection is just too great for her to have a catheter in all of the time so he got us in to see a Urologist to help us track down the problem.

While the Urologist wasn’t able to really give us a reason why she is experiencing these issues he did say that he didn’t feel like this was something that we would have to deal with long term. He said that he was hopeful that it would only last a week or two and that we could get by using an at-home catheter kit (which Donna said was a lot better than the ones they used at the ER). One thing is for sure, my wife is a whole lot tougher than I am when it comes to things like this. If I was faced w/ the idea that I had to have a catheter 4 times a day I’m pretty sure I would freak completely out.

On the upside to all of this, each time we have visited the ER we have been able to see the baby on the ultrasound and hear the fetal heartbeat. The heartbeat has been very strong and during the ultrasounds we have been able to see it moving it’s head around and even sucking it’s thumb (or at least that’s what it looked like to me). Being able to see these images of the baby has really helped put us at ease knowing that God has his hand on this pregnancy and is walking hand in hand with us throughout each of the challenges we are faced with.

As for my problems w/ the stomach ulcer, etc. I am doing a lot better, my doctor put me on a pretty strong medication to treat the ulcers and I have been able to start eating breakfast again, although the smell of scrambled eggs and anything with garlic in it still makes me pretty nauseous. We will move into our 15th week this Sunday, Praise the Lord!! I’m curious, have any other dad’s to be ever experienced morning sickness while their wife was pregnant? My mom says that my dad did while she was pregnant w/ me. At any rate, it’s an interesting phenomenon that can’t be explained…

Thoughts on Joe Paterno

Update: 11/10/11 10:30am – The more I am learning about this case, and after having read the grand jury testimony in the Sandusky case, I’m starting to look at this entire thing a little differently. I really want to believe that Joe Pa didn’t do anything wrong, or try to cover up / do the right thing in this case, but if some of the allegations I have heard since writing this post are true, I’m going to be pretty heartbroken.

I returned home this evening and saw a firestorm of tweets related to the news that Penn State’s Board of Trustees had decided to go ahead and fire Joe Paterno even though he had already announced that he was retiring at the end of the season. I was shocked to say the least. Now, before I go any further I want to make this known:

I despise the idea of a grown man, especially a person of trust, like Jerry Sandusky, molesting young children. It’s wrong, and I pray for the victims and their families. I just want to get this on the record, I also have no sympathy for anyone who participates in these acts either directly or indirectly by trying to cover it up.

The part that bothers me in this whole scenario is that I have a lot of respect for Joe Paterno, he’s always carried himself w/ a lot of dignity, class, and integrity over the years. He’s coached college football for over 60 years and in those 60 years there’s never really been any questioning his character on or off the field. He’s still married to his wife Sue that he’s been faithful to since the day they said “I do”. There’s never been any mention of Joe Pa sneaking around or having affairs, instead there’s always been stories about how he and his wife have given millions of dollars to various charities and establish educational facilities at Penn State. I know for a fact that the student library at Penn State came about as a donation from Joe and Sue Paterno. If you think about it long enough, I bet you can’t think of one skeleton that has ever came out of Joe Paterno’s closet over the years.

I recall a story where some sports vendor at Penn State, it was either Nike, Under Armour, or Adidas, approached the coach before a ball game and asked him to put on one of their sweaters to wear during a ball game. I can remember the sports vendor was under the impression that their contractual agreement with the school had locked in the fact that Joe Pa was going to wear their sweater on the sidelines as some sort of endorsement. Upon hearing this request, Joe Pa just smiled at the corporate representative and told them no that he thought he would just wear the sweater he had on because he liked it better, the rep stood there shocked and almost insisted that he change sweaters. Joe Paterno, still smiling, looked at the rep and told them that it wasn’t happening because his grandchildren had bought him that sweater and then he walked out of the room. To the best of my knowledge, he was never asked to change sweaters again. This is just one story about Joe Paterno that I have heard over the years, he was a class act.

If I am wrong about Joe Paterno’s character and if it comes out in trial that he did know about the child molestation and tried to cover it up, I will be the first to admit that he needs to go down w/ the rest of the group involved. This is something we don’t know for sure yet but we will soon. I’m saddened by the fact that one low-life, Jerry Sandusky, has brought down one of the brightest personalities in college football.

One other thing I would like to mention in closing, I feel as if Penn State’s Board of Trustees jumped the gun and acted prematurely given the fact that Sandusky hasn’t even been to trial yet. I feel as if they should have just left Joe Paterno’s resignation at the end of the season, that he had already announced, stand as his punishment. You just don’t fire someone who has been loyal and without blemish for over 60 years w/ a phone call if you can’t substantiate the allegations against him with anything other than here say (and that’s exactly what it is at this point, hear say, nothing has went to trial yet).

What are your thoughts??

Pregnancy: Thoughts at Week 12

Given our past problems w/ miscarriage early in our 3 past pregnancies, making it to the end of our first trimester (week 12) is a goal that my wife and I were really looking forward to because everything we have read on the topic says that the risk of miscarriage drops dramatically after the first trimester. Well, praise God, we made it to this momentous milestone this past week (see YouTube video below).

I’d love to say that everything up until this point has been a breeze, but I would be lying. Well, let me rephrase this, I wish I could say that everything for me up to this point has been a breeze, but it has not. My wife, the one actually carrying our child, has been cool as a cucumber during this entire pregnancy. Me, on the other hand, is another story. I guess I’ve just been so guarded due to our past experiences. I have been guarding over her the entire time and not allowing her to get too far out of my sight for fear that she will lift something heavy, fall down, or do something else crazy (knowing full well she wouldn’t). Today I went to the doctor to figure out why I have been able to drop 20lbs extremely quick (even though I am on a diet, the weight loss has been a lot faster than I anticipated). I have also had some problems recently w/ sharp burning stomach pains, fever, nausea, and indigestion. Our doctor had me lay back on the table and he basically put his hands right on the center of my discomfort immediately. It was almost like he knew right away what was wrong. Well, long story short, I’ve worried myself into having an ulcer…

The good news is that the ulcer is treatable. I’m already able to tell a difference a few hours later after having taken the medication he prescribed. From this day forward I’m focusing on something that should eliminate this from happening again in the future. Concerning our baby and this pregnancy, I’m pulling back and learning the difference between having faith in God and trusting God. From this point on I’m trusting God. This is an approach that my good friend Garth recommended a few weeks ago and has been in the back of my mind the entire time. If you pray, I would sure appreciate your prayers of support while I walk this walk out spiritually, and of course Donna and I appreciate all of your prayers concerning this pregnancy and the future of our awesome baby!!

In case you missed the Facebook post w/ our 12 week ultrasound on Facebook, here ya go!!

Also, I’m going to expand my Faith Category on this blog to include my daddy blog and renaming it: Faith/Family. I hope you enjoy my future posts…

Movie Review: Courageous

The other night for “date night” I took my wife to see ‘Courageous‘ after a close friend, Lynn Wheeler, recommended we see it. I’m just going to say it now, this was probably the most moving film I have seen in a long time. The entire theater was packed w/ people who by the end of the movie would all be moved to tears (just like me). I’m not going to give away the plot of the movie or anything like that other than to say that if you are a father, soon to be father, even a husband or boyfriend, you need to see this movie. I can’t wait until it comes out on DVD because I’m giving them away as gifts to everyone I know…