After 4+ years of fertility treatments, medical procedures, injections, and one miscarriage, Donna and I are finally ready to announce to the world that we are pregnant. We are somewhere between 8-10 weeks pregnant according to the nurse who gave us our labs the other day, and yesterday we had our first appointment w/ our OBGYN, Dr. Andrew Cole.
During our appointment yesterday Dr. Cole told us that based on everything he was seeing everything looked perfect to him and he didn’t see any cause for alarm. Our HCG levels were about 45,000 the other day, and are much higher than that now. We even got to see everything starting to develop on the ultrasound, pictures are attached below. Since our first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage at around the 5-6 week period, Donna and I both decided to wait until we knew that this time around was going to be a viable pregnancy before we shared the news with anyone. I am actually writing this blog post in advance of us telling our church friends tonight at The Church Alive because she wanted to tell everyone in person that had been praying for us before they saw it on Facebook & Twitter, my wife knows me well.
Last week we shared the news w/ Donna’s parents and then told my parents this past weekend while we were in town for my cousins engagement party. Words cannot describe how ecstatic I am right now, and honestly there are moments when it has even sank in yet that we are having a baby. It’s hard to describe, but during our first pregnancy, I was nervous about every little thing that Donna did, I was very protective and didn’t want her driving or even getting out of the house to run errands, but this time around I have had a peace about everything that I know can only come from this being God’s will. I didn’t even say a word yesterday when she came home with a new pair of high heel shoes (you would just have to know my wife).
As I mentioned earlier, we have been trying to have a baby for 4+ years now. Just getting to this point there have been moments that I have had to sit and hold her while she cried, as well as moments where she has had to grab me and tell me to chill out because everything is going to be okay. Any of you that have dealt with infertility issues know exactly where I am coming from, if the feeling of hopelessness doesn’t drive you crazy first it will definitely bring you closer together. We are both so excited to be at this point.
If you have ever, or are currently facing issues w/ infertility, I want to provide some words of encouragement as well as give you something to think about based on our journey. A few months back while we were still trying fertility treatments Donna kept having complications and I could tell that she was absolutely miserable, and as her husband I made up my mind that I wasn’t going to sit back and watch her go through all of this anymore so we stopped our visits to the fertility clinic altogether and just turned it over to God.
We started looking into adoption, which is also a great thing to investigate by the way, but once we got our mind off of getting pregnant, we finally got pregnant. Of course, that pregnancy wasn’t meant to be but we saw it as encouragement from God to keep our heads up and to keep trying. By God allowing us to get pregnant that first time I think both of us found ourselves at ease over our situation and didn’t see it as hopeless anymore. We continued to pray each morning together, that’s how we start our day, that God would give us a baby. Fast forward to the present and I just saw my precious baby yesterday on the ultrasound.
So my advice to anyone going through a similar situation is this, relax. Put things in God’s hands, he is the best OBGYN / Endocrinologist in the business because he is also the inventor.